Healing After Infidelity
You may be asking yourself, "Should I leave the relationship?".
"What does it mean that my partner was unfaithful?"
"How can I help my partner forgive my betrayal?"
There are many questions we ask ourselves and our partner after infidelity has occurred. You may not know if you want to stay in the relationship or not. Therapy is a great place to begin answering your questions and the healing process.
For couples who need guidance through this time, Melinda offers help to both partners and to the couple as they work to re-create themselves and perhaps their relationship.
Part of the process involves the major decision about whether or not to continue the relationship, whether it is possible to repair the damage from the affair, and begin the process of healing.
Remarkably, some couples are able to develop stronger and healthier relationships than they had before the affair, as a result of improved communication and understanding of each other’s needs through counseling.
It’s common to think people cheat for the sex. We often jump to conclusions believing that it was for the sex, they have become attracted to someone else, we were not good enough, or maybe they were looking for adrenaline pumping sex. Most often our conclusions are wrong or only half true.
There are many reasons people cheat, and much of the motivation behind it comes from an internal pain.
If you have ever been cheated on, you can probably understand the pain and devastation it brings. If you are experiencing this pain or have in the past, I want to tell you that the cheating had nothing to do with you.
Many people cheat due to their own unmet needs, low self-esteem, or feelings of pain and unhappiness.
I’m here to tell you - both people can heal. Both people can be in a healthy and loving relationship, in the future, with the same partner or another partner. As a sex therapist specializing in relationships, I have helped many couples work through the pain of infidelity and rebuilding the relationship.
I believe every person deserves a healthy and happy relationship. If you have been cheated on, I’m here to help you work through this pain.
If you cheated on your partner, together we can learn the motivation behind your behavior. If you do not understand what motivates your behaviors, you will repeat the same cycle.