This month, in honor of Masturbation May, I’m going to teach you everything you need to know about the Holy Grail of the female erogenous areas: The G-Spot!
That’s right, A whole month designated for pleasure and self-love. It’s finally time to highlight our private moments. Masturbation, as a whole, has only recently made its way into mainstream conversations, and we have the “Condom Queen” to thank for that. In 1994 the former Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders shared her thoughts about including the basics of masturbation into sexual education classes in public schools.
Immediately following this statement, she was asked to resign.
Unfortunately, she did.
Today, more than ever, masturbation is a widely used term. Commonly when one thinks of masturbation they think of genital stimulation. However, masturbation preferences differ from person to person and it’s important to keep in mind what constitutes as masturbation will vary. Masturbation can come with stigmatized feelings, but on the other hand it can come with sexual self-empowerment, body positivity, and a relaxed mind.
As a society Americans seem to learn how to have sex through a mixture of porn, what we hear from our friends’ experiences, and the “should” statements coming from various societal pressures. Needless to say, this is all wrong, and we need to have a healthier discourse about sex, and in particular masturbation. To start that conversation, below are a few tips to help you achieve that elusive G-Spot orgasm!
1. Where is the G-Spot Located?
This can be challenging. The location of the G-Spot is slightly different with every vagina owner. Typically, the G-Spot is located two to three inches inside the vagina on the front of the vaginal wall. You will know you have found it, from its ribbed texture. My advice here is that at first, it is easiest found through self-exploration with your fingers!
2. How to stimulate it
This is the fun part. The G-Spot can be stimulated digitally, from a penis, or with a toy. On average, the G-Spot requires more stimulation in comparison to other erotic zones on the body. If you find your stamina decreasing on your pleasure pathway to achieving an orgasm, tag in a sex toy. There are many vibrators specifically targeted to stimulate the G-Spot.
3. The best position for a G-Spot orgasm
If you are looking to experience G-Spot stimulation through penetrative sex, let me share with you the best positions for easily reaching the G-Spot. Begin with exploring and Identifying positions that offer you more control over your body movements. There are many, many, many sex positions that can stimulate the G-Spot, but I’ll give you these two to try first!
Position one : Cowgirl
Cowgirl is a classic position with many variations. Let me reiterate how to best utilize the cowgirl position to stimulate the G-spot. One partner is laying on their back while the other climbs on top in a straddle position. This position allows the person on top to have complete control over the rhythm, depth, and the angle of penetration. The angle of each person’s hips are key in reaching the G-Spot.
Position two: Doggie style
Another great option is the Doggy Style position. The key here is angle and depth. One partner is on their hands and knees while the other partner with the strap on or a penis is behind them. During penetration, the person on their hands and knees can lean on their forearms for extra depth and G-Spot stimulation or they can remain on their hands. When leaning on your forearms push the hips up and backward. Almost like the Downward Dog pose.
As a Certified Sex Therapist, I encourage you to explore your body and pleasure pathway to live your best sex life! By exploring and experiencing pleasure you build a better relationship with your body and mind, while gaining the ability to share with your partners what you most enjoy sexually. There is no right or wrong way in sex. “Normal” is only defined by the people consenting and engaging in the sexy time. Play around with angles and positions! In honor of Masturbation may, I encourage you to explore your body and experience all the pleasures of masturbation. Enjoy!