Studies have shown that people have the most sex in the month of August! With that being said, it is time to get our sexy facts straight. Miss information around sex only creates for poor sexual experiences.
Let’s tackle a few of the common myths I hear on a regular basis.
Myth 1: Just because you watch in porn, does not mean you want it in bed
Truth: Porn is fantasy. Porn is designed for your entertainment and pleasure, it’s not a “How To” video. It’s common for straight women to watch lesbian porn. Why is that? Heterosexual porn is designed to attract and stimulate a penis owner. Many women find themselves saying, “That looks like it hurts”. Lesbian porn is designed to mentally stimulate vulva owners. Leading many straight women to search for lesbian porn but desire a relationship with a man.
Enjoy your alone time and explore your fantasies! Don’t be shy!
Myth 2: Sex is only good if it ends in an orgasm
Truth: An orgasm is just a bonus, not the goal. Feeling pressured to have an orgasm, decreases your pleasure and likelihood of having an orgasm. Many people feel pressured to have an orgasm to show their partner they are enjoying the sexy experience.
The goal of sexy time is PLEASURE! An orgasm does not mean that the sex is good. But, if you have one…enjoy!
Pleasure makes for good sex.
Myth 3: All Orgasms feel the same and should be an explosive experience
Truth: There are many different types of orgasms. Just to name a few: Clitoral, Vaginal, Anal, Erogenous, Combo, and the list continues. Each orgasm feels a bit differently. For example, a clitoral orgasm feels more like a tingling feeling on the surface of the skin, while a vaginal orgasm pulsates the pelvic floor muscles around the vagina.
Everyone has their own orgasm. Orgasms are not always in “Big O” fashion like Cosmo writes about. Remember good sex is pleasurable sex. Find your desired orgasm.
Myth 4: A woman is turned on, if she is naturally lubricating
Truth: A woman can be completely turned on, but not wet. There are many reasons women do not lubricate during sexy moments. This could be due to medical reasons, timing of her cycle, reduced estrogen, or just because she isn’t at that moment. It is ok. If this has happened to you, it is common. If this is continually happening and causing pain during intercourse or challenges in your sex life, consult your gynecologist.
I recommend storing a lubricant in your bedside drawer. Whether you can naturally lubricate or not, adding lube to a sexy experience only enhances the pleasure.
Myth 5: The bigger the penis - the better the sex
Truth: Total myth! It is not about the size of the penis; it is about how you use it. There is a societal trend that bigger is better, but when I speak with people individually many people do not want a large/ ex-large penis. Bigger is not necessarily better. One size does not fit all!
What matters is how you use your penis! Whatever your penis size is, find positions that you and your partner enjoy. Don’t forget to stimulate ALL erogenous zones.
Sex is a mental and physical act. Challenge the myths you have learned and begin living your best sex life.